Relationship break ups are probably the last thing one thinks about when in love. Love gives us that initial feeling of euphoria and this is the time when almost everything seems perfect. Unfortunately, when reality sinks in, the truth may seem more than just bitter. A healthy relationship happens when both the partners know how to complement each other in every possible way. Break ups happen when this balance is lost! Sometimes, one may even break a relationship on an impulse. What does one do in such a case? Endless hours spent in remorse will not help you in this situation. You cry, you lament, you blame the world… but the truth is you have lost the love of your life. However, not all is lost if you learn to look at things in an optimistic way. Your ex can be back into your life, if you really make the effort from your side. ‘The end’ can actually be turned into a fresh new beginning. With a little bit of soul searching and knowing what you really want in life, you can turn things in your favor!
Dumping your partner or getting dumped yourself is equally traumatic. A male friend in particular spent endless hours, thinking about different ways to get his girlfriend back. But, he did not really have the courage to implement his actions. Break ups are never easy and making up to the girl is definitely not going to be simple. But without an effort, one would never know the result! After plenty of observations courtesy the number of heartbroken male friends I have, I realized there are plenty of ways of winning one’s ex girlfriend back! Take a look at these ideas that should give you many hints to go about this issue in a smooth fashion.
Ideas for Getting your Ex Girlfriend Back:
Have you apologized for your behavior?
Dumping a girl and running back to say your ‘sorry’ won’t always help you in any situation. An apology should be the first thing on your mind; however, you need to handle the matter in a delicate manner. Did the break up happen on a very bitter note? Was the relationship particularly abusive from your side? In that case, there is no way a woman would probably wish to come back to you unless you apologize for your unruly behavior. Saying ‘sorry’ does not reduce your self-esteem, in fact, it might just score a few brownie points for you in this regard! Avoid sending an SMS or emails with words of apology; instead make a personal effort from your side.
Have you tried to communicate with her on a deeper level?
Communication can solve many relationship issues. Try to talk to her and convince her you are actually sorry about the break up. Tell her what she means to you. Make her feel special and say how much you miss her. Words are really important and how you communicate may just help you to win her back! Discuss what went wrong and how you can make things better in the near future. Give her the reassurance so that she places her trust in you all over again.
Have you spoken to your common friends?
In many relationships, common friends would obviously be the one factor that can help you to connect with her. If you cannot contact her at the moment, you can talk to common friends about the issue. Look for people who can help you to get your ex girlfriend back into your life. This would work, especially if she is completely miffed with you and refuses to even have a decent conversation with you. Friends can help to be the very important icebreaker and give you a second chance to revive this relationship.
Have you tried to make her feel special?
Perhaps you may have lost the entire initial spark in the relationship, which led to the break up. The fault could have been from either side, however, it’s you who wants her back. So, you have to make the initial effort. Considering the fact that she is still single, you can try to pamper her to win her heart back. Once she is open to communication, you can take further steps to make amends. When the initial anger pangs have subsided, follow it up with a candlelit dinner, flowers, gifts and the works! Leave no stone unturned to make her feel really special and to make her realize how much she means to you.
Have you spoken to her about a compromise from your side?
The reasons for the break up could be many. She may not like your current attitude, habits, your professional life etc. Is there any particular thing you are willing to change about yourself to get your ex girlfriend back into your life? Are you willing to go that extra mile? If her arguments about you are logical, there’s no harm in rectifying your mistakes. The sooner you accept your mistakes, the sooner you will win her back! Love involves a little bit of compromise and in this case, you can take the first step yourself!
Mulling over the situation has never helped anyone. If you really love your girlfriend you need to contemplate about the things that went wrong and led to the break up. Once you have sorted out the initial problems, convincing her would be the main issue. Give her time to trust you and feel the love all over again! I am hoping these ideas would help you to rekindle the lost feelings and discover this beautiful relationship on a new note.